Thursday, May 10, 2012

What I Need

As I went to tuck my girls into bed, my 5-year-old proudly showed me a photo of herself attached to the front of her play hutch.
"Look Mom, it's me!"
"Yes, it is, but you don't have any tape.  How is it stuck there?" I asked as I pulled it off and found my fingers were all wet.
"I, just spitted on it."
Oh lovely.  "Ryah, spit is not an adhesive, please don't do that again."

Before having kids, I knew that all I wanted to have was boys.  A family of boys sounded perfect to me.  So when I found out I was having a girl the first time, I was actually pretty upset.  The second time around, I knew that given my husband's family history, a boy was likely not in the cards, but I still hoped.  Alas, no, another girl.

Don't get me wrong, I love my girls, but we all have an idea of what we hope our future family will be and when the picture changes, we can have all kinds of emotions.  I know there are plenty of moms out there who have all boys and want exactly what I have.  I've come to realize that you don't get what you want, you get what you need and sometimes the two aren't the same.

But I digress, because in actuality, I have all the "boys" I need, especially with my second daughter.  My little tomboy is thrilled to play in the dirt, excitedly shows me the slug in her hand that she's just found, is happiest when being active and is the funniest little ham.  There's also no shortage of gross-out factor with her.

The other night, I was getting the two ready for a bath and I turned around when I heard Ryah say, "Look Mom, I can itch my bum on the rug just like the dog in the movie!"  I couldn't toss that bare bum into the tub fast enough.  And seriously, ew.  I should know by now, that whenever Ryah starts a sentence with "Look, Mom," I need to be prepared. 

Did I also mention that destruction follows this one on a daily basis?  I didn't even have to child-proof my house for my first child, but nothing is safe when Ryah is around.  And I have the crayon colored walls, hole in the screen door, bent blinds, chewed on coffee table and new broken toy, to prove it. *sigh*

Now, in hindsight, I'm grateful that I only have one "boy," because I don't think the house, or my sanity could handle two.  I also think I have exactly what I need... a princess and a Ryah, and I couldn't be happier.

Tuesday, May 1, 2012

May Flowers

My sister just had twins on Easter Sunday.  Her first and second child.  Very excited for them.  And you know what new babies means?  Other than that intoxicating new baby smell?  A great excuse to build a diaper cake!  I'm always looking for a reason to make one of those!  They just don't seem to be the best get well soon or Bat Mitzvah gift.  "Um, Holly...."  "Just go with it, they make great centerpieces don't they?  L-chaim!" :o)

This time around, I had two awesome (and legit) reasons to make one, so naturally I had to make TWO fabulous diaper cakes, plus a bonus one just to use the "leftovers."  My favorite cakes so far and I just had to share.  And if you feel so inspired to make one of your own, here's the link to the previous tutorial for ya.

All of the flowers, butterflies and ribbon were from the dollar store.  I love that place!!


Thursday, April 26, 2012

Makeup, please?

Recently, we were asked, through Facebook, a couple of questions about discussing makeup with our children :

"How do you plan on talking to young daughters about it?  Do you feel it's a necessary conversation to have?"

It was a interesting question and here's what we had to say about it:


"When my girls see me putting makeup on, sometimes, I'll put some blush on them. It makes them feel like princesses. I don't wear makeup very often, so when I do, my girls notice.

Neither of them has asked to wear it and if they ever do, I'll tell them I'd like them to wait until they're 12. If for no other reason, then because they have their whole lives to be grown-up and wear makeup, and should enjoy just being kids. There's also the whole cycle of wearing makeup, which causes acne, which in turn, makes you want to wear more makeup. Not fun.

I don't feel it's a necessary conversation to have, at least in my house. With how often I wear makeup, or even do my hair, for that matter; my girls don't have much of a high maintenance example to follow. When the time comes, they'll hopefully be 12 and I'll hopefully be ready to beat away the boys."


"I'm one of those moms that wears make up every day. Not a lot, but just enough to make me feel "woken up" and ready for the day. Like, Holly, if my girls happen to be in the room, I might put a little blush on them just for fun. They always ask for lip gloss too, which I don't mind putting on them. I've never felt the need to have a formal conversation with them (mostly because they're 3 and almost 5 still). They do ask questions, though, like, "why do you put that on your face?" I try to be careful with my answers because I don't want them to feel like they need make-up to be pretty. I tell them that I use a little foundation to cover up the "splotchies" and mascara so I can have eye lashes like theirs. Then I make sure and tell them how beautiful they are and that they don't need make up. But if the want to wear make up when they're older, then they can."


"I come from a family that LOVES makeup. Every present-giving holiday, my girls (ages 5 and 7) get massive make up kits from their great-grandma, to use with their dress up, and they have been getting these for about 3 years now. I allow them to wear the makeup in the house but only about once a week or so. They have to wash their faces if we have company over, or if we leave the house. They're really good about it - we've talked about how makeup is a grown up thing, like fancy jewelry (which they love) and fancy shoes and dresses and such. Other than dress up, we have a "No Makeup Until Age 13" rule, which the kids don't love, but do understand. Because they get to play with it, even if they don't get to show their glamorous (ha! yeah right) faces to the world, I haven't had many complaints."


"I've always had very mixed feeling about makeup on young girls.  I see so many of them dressed up and made up to look older than they are which sends a very scary message, in my book.  At the same time, I remember my Mom letting me play with her lipstick collection, so long as it was all wiped off before I left the room.  We've allowed our six year old daughter to wear a touch of lipgloss (colorless or near colorless) and nail polish.  I never really set out to have a conversation about it, but when she started going to birthdays where her friends got make up as presents, it sort of forced my hand.  We have the same rule that Marisa and her family makeup until 13, which was the same rule I had growing up.  I explained to my daughter that "make up is for grown ups" and I've tried to make the point, as others mentioned, that no one "needs" make up to be beautiful.  I wear minimal make up to work and (most of the time) none at home on the weekends.

As a compromise of sorts, for dress up play at  home, I bought actual face paint so I could make both of the kids (i.e. my son too) look like kitties or puppies or whatever character they want to be.  To me that's more "theatrical" than making them look like they belong in Toddlers and Tiaras."

Thanks to Liz for allowing us to throw in our two cents!

How about you, have you had make up conversations with your daughters?  What are your rules?  Do you have any?